tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2056188614919709414.post-26987988198639463082008-06-12T14:11:00.002-04:002008-06-12T14:45:09.540-04:002008-06-12T14:45:09.540-04:00<span style="font-style: italic;">Dear <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">Rosezilla</span>,</span><br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">It's me, </span><a style="font-style: italic;" href="http://www.rosezilla.com/2008/06/helphes-smothering-me.html">Chilling in Brooklyn</a><span style="font-style: italic;">, again. I took your advice and kept things low-key with the smothering guy. Suddenly, out of the blue, he wrote me a very serious email saying that I'm a "cool" girl but that he's working a lot and what's to keep things "casual" and is not looking for a "serious relationship". Obviously, considering my last email, I've been pretty clear that I'm not looking for a serious relationship and have done nothing to inspire an email like that. What should I write back?</span><br /><br /><br />Dear Chilling,<br /><br />Ugh. One of my favorite lines of all time is, "cancel my subscription, I'm not interested in your issues." <br /><br />Some people (<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">ok</span>, a lot of people), have issues. Baggage. I don't even want to guess what this guy's issues are, but he is a classic case:<br /><br />1. Behave illogically.<br />2. Blame the other party.<br /><br />I present to you 2 possible responses. Option 1 will probably destroy any chance of still seeing this man:<br /><br /><blockquote>Well, let's see. I've stated on my personal ad that I was not interested in serious relationships. I've never said, 'hey let's talk about "us"' or ask for a key to your place or to meet your parents or have your kids. In fact, you're the one who has been wanting to go out all the time and acting "clingy".<br /><br />There are a lot of men out there who have these "mini-relationships", where they create a relationship with a woman in their heads for a couple weeks or months and then suddenly dump the woman for being "too clingy". Perhaps you just have some other issues you're trying to work out with me. <br /><br />Here on Planet Healthy Adult Relationships, people can talk and go out and be intimate without anxiety and guilt. You should visit sometime.<br /></blockquote><br />Option 2 is short and sweet:<br /><br /><blockquote>.....................<span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">ok</span>. As I've stated on numerous occasions that I'm not interested in a monogamous/"serious" relationship, I don't see how that would be a problem. I'd be interested to know what suddenly brought this about and I apologize if I haven't been clear on this in the past.</blockquote>Good luck!Rosezillabalticprincess@gmail.com0